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saracupcake
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Joined: Sep 22, 2007
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Location: Stirling, Scotland
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Fri May 16, 2008 3:07 pm |
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My sister in law's 10th wedding anniversary is in July. My brother in law phoned and asked if I would make a cake for their party but he wants it to be a surprise.
I have to admit I don't really know my brother in law at all, he is shy and often ducks out of family events. Really the only time I see him is at parties for his children and I usually don't get into any in depth conversations with him. I don't dislike him at all, I just don't know him although I do know that he is crazy about my sister in law and is really good to her.
He has asked for a cake with the fuselage of a plane on it, he wants the only thing on the cake to be a derilct plane with no * pit and then an inscription that says "you still take my breath away".
The reason he wants this is my SIL's favourite song is Take My Breath Away by Berlin and it was their first dance at their wedding. The video for the song was made in a plane graveyard and is full of derelict planes. After having it explained to me I can see why he thinks this is a romantic thing to do but I don't think anyone else at the party would get it.
My SIL in very feminine, she loves florals and frills so I don't know how she would feel about the starkness of a cake with just a derelict plane on the top.
I am also worried about the conotations of what may look like a crashed plane - what would you think if you were at a party to celebrate a 10th wedding anniversary and the cake had a crashed plane on top?
I don't want to offend my brother in law, I also would hate to suppose I know better than he does, or ruin what might be a really romantic gesture.
What would you do? |
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saracupcake
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Joined: Sep 22, 2007
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Location: Stirling, Scotland
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Fri May 16, 2008 3:11 pm |
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I didn't put the * in, it is obviously there to stop bad language being posted but I was trying to say the front of the plane where the pilot sits. |
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leily
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Location: Iowa
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Fri May 16, 2008 3:39 pm |
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Personally if it was me and my husband designed the cake and put that much thought into it I would love it. It sounds like he has thought about this a lot and to the two of them it would mean a lot.
As for everyone else at the party... does it matter if they get it? It is about celebrating the anniversary. Plus it is a great story and they can tell it so everyone knows. |
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SaraO
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Location: Windsor, ON
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Fri May 16, 2008 4:13 pm |
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I can see both sides of the argument. It is a nice gesture and it does make a good story, but at the same time, if it looks like a crashed plane, it would look kind of odd and some people might not bother asking to find out about the nice meaning behind it. The cake isn't really just for the couple because it's an anniversary party, right? They have invited others to celebrate with them. I think it might be a good idea to just call your brother in law and explain that you think it's a great idea, but you just have some concerns about how it might be interpreted by others who don't know the story. Maybe you could make some suggestions for how to keep the idea by make it more obviously romantic - like adding some nice hearts or something. |
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indydebi
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:07 pm |
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I am not a romantic "oh isn't that so sweet!" type of person, but oh, it's that so sweet of him to think of this for her!! I think she will LUV it! It's a special message for the two of them. Who cares if nobody else gets it! you KNOW the story will be shared at the party and then everyone WILL get it. |
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andromedaslove
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Joined: May 09, 2008
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:21 pm |
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I am sorry, but who cares what everyone else thinks!! He has just made one of the sweetest gestures I have heard of. If I were your SIL and found out you talked my hubby into changing the idea for that cake I would be made at YOU! He is married to this woman, and as you said loves her to death, I am sure he knows what she would want. As for the guests, they can either ask about it or make their own assumption, again who cares? |
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JawdroppingCakes
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Location: Texas
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:29 pm |
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I also think you should make it the way he has asked. My husband is also kinda shy and doesn't really show interest in throwing parties or what decorations should look like...much less the cake! It would mean so much to me knowing my husband designed the cake for our anniversary so I'm sure she will too! I say just stick with his design. |
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susgene
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:29 pm |
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I would love if my hubby would request something so romantic. I'm sure the reasoning behind the cake will get around the party and everyone will feel that it was a very romantic thing to do! |
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Doug
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:35 pm |
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1: the customer is always right.
2: when customer is wrong -- see #1.
even Duff said this.
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and -- oh what a romantic thing to do.
you gonna kill romance?
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further --
it's his gift to her NOT yours
HE'S married to her, NOT you.
so....
do it HIS way. |
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cakesandbakes
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Fri May 16, 2008 6:48 pm |
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Just an idea to tie everything together but maybe there is someway (anything can be found online nowdays) to get some still photos from that video you spoke of.... it could be the conversation starter for everyone at the party to know how he came up with the idea. |
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kakeladi
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Fri May 16, 2008 7:00 pm |
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I would completely make this cake as he described! Maybe to make it a bit more femine you could make flowers &/or ruffles up the side of a 4" tall cake from the bottom yet leave the top more stark as he requested. |
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amia1024
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Fri May 16, 2008 8:39 pm |
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I think that idea is SOO sweet! His idea makes this cake even more special because it's something only they will "get!" What girl wouldn't swoon over this? And how wonderful is he to even think of something like this!?  Most guys wouldn't even think to get a cake, let alone make it so romantic and sentimental! I can't think of one reason she wouldn't love this cake. I think you should definitely do it just the way he described!   Oh and imagine how envious all the other wives will be when they hear the story behind this cake design!  |
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biancas_mommy
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Fri May 16, 2008 8:52 pm |
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yes, make it his way! that is so sweet. i feel like since you say he's so shy if you even suggest that she might not like it that might make him second-guess the whole thing and change his mind and that would be TRAGIC because he put so much thought into it and it's so meaningful for the two of them. who cares what anybody else thinks? and like previous posters have said, the story will get around. a cake like that won't go unnoticed and people will ask questions. and then his romantic gesture will make all the girls swoon. |
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imagine76
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Fri May 16, 2008 8:54 pm |
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yep. gonna have to agree that you need to do his sweet and romantical idea. maybe if it's still bugging you you could ask him if he minds if you add some cupcakes to the cake table and then decorate those in the girly fashion you think she'd appreciate. -just throwing ideas out.
also, maybe we could call it a "rooster pit"?
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mommycakediva
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Location: Manitoba
Birthday: Mar 02
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Fri May 16, 2008 9:03 pm |
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wow, for first thing! He really did put alot of thought into this cake! kudos to him. Ya I would keep it his way for sure, sometimes its the small things between two people that make it so special! Sometimes people think me and my hubbby are out of it, but its just an inside scoop! |
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