I wanted to update you all on this situation. I have seriously forgiven this woman even though well I shouldn't but hey ya gotta live with love in your heart it just takes to much out of ya to hate....anyways I got a phone call from my Florist friend who gives out my cards to potential customers. The husband of the woman did not know how to get a hold of me but went into the florist (which I am going to go give a big ole hug today) and left me a envelope. I had my friend open it because I really didn't want to READ a note from that woman. He had left me a check for 60.00 and a note explaining that their daughter, for whom the cake was for had sprung on them that she was pregnant. Unmarried and in college. Resulting from this news was his wifes uncalled for actions. He went on to explain this is not how his family acts and wishes to apologize for her actions knowing that it had upset me he could not say anything because he to was in shock. I accept his apology and feel sorry that she reacted to this kind of news in the way she did. I also feel sorry for the DD knowing that she isn't going to get the support that she needs at this time, and hoping in my heart she doesn't do anything drastic. I wish I DID know her just to console her. So with this said, I did get paid accordingly. I think the 60.00 is fair for what I have had to go through with these people.
So with that said...things do work out for the good in most cases.
(Karen I am living by that little story I posted in that topic , what hurts you must be written in sand so it can leave accordingly from your soul....and we must remember the great things that happen to us) I am however not wise LOL, I just live and learn
(((((((hugs to all )))))))))))
Kahuna Frequent Member
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:02 am
What an a** clown! I agree with the person whoes DH is an attorney. Take a pic of the cake and all of these posts to court with you! Then you might mention that it is in several people's FAVORITES! I have worked in the restraunt business for many years and there are always some dirt bags who complain (every time) just to get a free meal. Take up the "right to refuse service" motto with this clam. The cake is wonderful, don't let this phyco bring you down.
How sad! I'm glad the husband pulled through and ended up paying. I think that, in itself, speaks for the true value of this family. It's horrible that you ended up getting caught in the middle of this but at least it all worked out. Now, hopefully, they pull through for their DD just as well. If that would happen in my family, my normally sweet and bend-over-backwards' parents would probably go just as ballistic.
erinalicia Frequent Member
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:11 am
I'm happy for you that the woman's husband made the effort to pay you accordingly and to explain his wife's actions. No one should be treated the way that she treated you. She should have the guts to apologize to you herself, though.
I can certainly agree with you that it takes too much out of a person to spend your time hating another. I spent years eaten up with it, although in my case it was my father's murderer... but that man could care less if I hate him or not and it wasn't hurting him, it was hurting me.
By the way, your cake was beautiful. It's too bad the woman couldn't appreciate it.
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:12 am
Oh Yay!! Love a happy ending! That's awesome that he did that for you. It would've meant more if his wife could've written it.. but it's great he did that for you. And hopefully once the news of her DD pregnancy sinks in.. she will be supportive. That is exactly how my mom reacted when my sister (17 at the time..) said she was pregnant. But now all is good and he is the apple of his Nanny's eye. So hopefully with time she'll be the next to apologize.
ntertayneme Moderator
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:18 am
If you were here in Louisiana, I'd drive to you just to give you a big ol' hug and tell you DO NOT blame yourself in anyway, DO NOT doubt your abilities and like I've always said when people are rude, crude, mean and ugly to you, "let it roll off you like water on a ducks back" ... Please don't take it to heart what this vicious woman had said to you... even if she was having a bad day, no one deserves to be treated in that manner.... the only thing I would have done differently than you, would have been to just look at her, reached over, picked up my cake and walked out without saying one word to her.... she'd of never had the benefit of having a free cake from me!! Chin up girlie!! You did an awesome job on your cake and did not in any way at all deserve the treatment received by this person!!
bethola Forum Fanatic
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:19 am
Well, this certainly explains why the woman would be upset but is no way to react. However, people react in different ways to traumatic situations.
I'm glad you have forgiven her. You are right, hate takes up too much time and energy. I'm also glad you got paid because you DEFINITELY deserved it!
So with that said...things do work out for the good in most cases.
(Karen I am living by that little story I posted in that topic , what hurts you must be written in sand so it can leave accordingly from your soul....and we must remember the great things that happen to us) I am however not wise LOL, I just live and learn
(((((((hugs to all )))))))))))
I haven't been able to read the whole thread; however, I read the first and last pages and boy am I glad I did! Thank you for your comment on "everything being written in the sand." There is a lot going on in my life and I have been a little disappointed in myself with letting things go, but you have inspired me this morning!!!
I had to come back and add this. I love this site. I take to heart most of the words expressed here. I can truly understand each and everyone of your views when you post them. I love that we each have the ability to know what the other is going through as far as caking is concerned. And we try to understand what each of us is going through when disaster strikes. That is what we need the most...the encourgement to move on no matter what. Not to give up our dreams and to live the best way we know how. And you all have given this to me a few times....the encourgement...helping me find my faith in my ability and the strength to pick myself up!!! Without your support I think a lot of us would be in trouble ...so if you would please take my appreciation for each and everyone of you to heart!! I truly mean it when I say " I LOVE MY CC FAMILY!!!"
Well, I figured there was some kind of upset going on there. I'm sure sorry for that family and I do feel for that mother, having that kind of news sprung on her. I wonder if it was the b-day girl. I'm glad to know you got paid. The man was good to make sure that you were taken care of.
Forgiving is the right thing to do. Unforgiveness doesn't usually hurt anyone but the one who won't forgive. Life is too short. You're doing it right!
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 6:45 am
karennayak wrote:
Hi Cindi (babynewyear),
Check out this post that Christi made in the Lounge some days ago.
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 7:16 am
I'm glad the DH at least redeemed himself. I can't agree with you more about how wonderful CC is, gives me hope for humanity. Christi, you personally have helped me with issues before so thank you to you and everyone here on CC. Hats off to you for handeling the situation so admaribally. I still might not do their baby shower cake though! I tried to post this befor so sorry if it comes up twice!
Sue
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K guys my daughter did do that (unmarried preggers thingamabob). Basically, I told her, "dang, It's not like I can tell you to get a refund or anything. Ya can't take it back."
And I am happy to say that Me n my hubbiness are the proud grandparents of a gorgeous little blue eyed angel who will be two this thanksgiving.
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Fri Oct 12, 2007 9:44 am
I had a feeling her hubby would come through for you. Though I still don't think anything excuses her actions. I'm so happy he showed there is some class in the family. And lucky for the DD, sounds like Dad is a reasonable person, I'm sure she'll get what she needs from him.
Gorgeous Baby Chaptlps! How can you NOT just love them!!!
ChefAngie Regular Member
Joined: Feb 14, 2007
Posts: 126
Location: Lawrenceville, Virginia
Birthday: Mar 21
Posted:
Fri Oct 12, 2007 9:57 am
I always get a deposit or the full price for the cake-especially when the hairs stand up on the back of my neck dealing with certain customers.
LAST MINUTE CONSTITUTES THE PRICE OF THE CAKE PLUS $25.00. A $50.00 cake is now $75.00.
I am so sorry about what happened to you. Keep your chin up.
Happy Baking and Decorating
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, what hurts you must be written in sand so it can leave accordingly from your soul....and we must remember the great things that happen to us) I am however not wise LOL, I just live and learn 
I tried to post this befor so sorry if it comes up twice!
